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In the recent solo episode of “Call Me CEO,” Camille Walker takes us on a profound exploration of building meaningful connections with our children in a world dominated by digital distractions. The episode, brimming with personal insights and practical strategies, promises to transform our approach to parenting in these modern times.

Camille delves into the art of utilizing daily activities, such as car rides, as opportunities for impactful conversations. This is not just about the destination, but the journey of dialogue and understanding that takes place within the confines of a moving vehicle. Such moments are presented as golden opportunities to dive deep into our children’s thoughts and feelings, fostering a strong bond that resonates beyond the drive.

The significance of play is accentuated as Camille describes it as a child’s language of love. It’s a revelation for many parents that through play, children express their need for attention and connection. Engaging in play, whether it’s through physical activity or imaginative scenarios with toys, releases oxytocin and endorphins, which strengthen the emotional bond between parent and child.

Another pivotal point discussed is the power of bedtime routines. These are not merely about ending the day but are seen as crucial touchpoints for setting intentions, sharing dreams, and indulging in heart-to-heart conversations. Camille suggests this as a time when children’s hearts and minds are most open, making it an ideal moment to fortify the parent-child relationship.

When addressing the challenges of the digital age, Camille introduces the “Time for Us” journals as a practical tool to combat excessive screen time and nurture positive communication. She emphasizes the importance of maintaining a healthy balance of positive interactions, adopting a recommended ratio of five positive for every negative one, a strategy that could significantly enhance the quality of familial relationships.

Reflective listening, a concept championed by psychoanalyst Peter Fonagy, is highlighted for its developmental benefits. It’s a method that requires parents to listen actively and reflect on what their children are expressing. This approach is touted as essential in teaching children how to understand and regulate their behavior and support their cognitive development.

Camille also touches on the evolving dynamics of physical touch, sharing a personal narrative of how this form of connection with her own growing kids remains irreplaceable. She explains that even a simple hug or a gentle touch can communicate volumes of love and assurance to a child.

The podcast episode presents an array of techniques and reflections that guide parents towards a more intentional and connection-oriented approach to raising their children. Camille Walker’s insights not only resonate with parents looking for guidance but also serve as a beacon of hope for building stronger, more resilient family ties in the era of digital parenting.

In summary, the episode is a heartfelt reminder that despite the busy pace of life and the pervasive influence of technology, we have the power to craft unbreakable bonds with our children. It calls on parents to be present, to listen, and to love in ways that transcend the noise of everyday life, creating a legacy of connection that endures.



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I get it. You have everything pulling at you right now, and the one that pulls at you the most is your child wanting to spend time with you, but not wanting to play another round of Among Us or Pokemon. Well, that's why I created the Time for Us journals. They are a prompt journal meant for kids ages two to 12, for you to spend time with your child on something that really matters. You talk about the day ways that they've been creative, a unique prompt and even a special way to be creative together. And guess what? It only takes focused five to 10 minutes a day for your child to really feel like you see them and that they matter. And it frees you up to do the things that you need to get done as well. And it frees you up to do the things that you need to get done as well. Use the code CEO at timeforusjournalscom as a special thanks from me to you. Thank you for listening. So you want to make an impact. You're thinking about starting a business, sharing your voice. How do women do it that handle motherhood, family and still chase after those dreams? We'll listen each week as we dive into the stories of women who know.


This is Call Me CEO. Welcome back everyone to Call Me CEO. I am your host, camille Walker, and today we're talking about seven simple ways to create connection with your kids. This episode is going to be a little bit different because I am the only one that's going to be on this show, and I hope to sprinkle in motherhood podcast episodes like this that help us really talk about the things that matter most to us, which is our kids and our family. So this is a question I get asked a lot. I've been working at home with my kids now for gosh, it's been over 10 years and I get asked a lot about how I managed to create connection with them when there are so many things on the to-do list and things pulling you every which way, and so I wanted to create a special episode just about this, and if you have any other questions, please feel free to DM me at callmeceopodcast on Instagram or email me at callmeceopodcast at gmailcom. All right, so let's dive in.


Number one, our car ride chats. I don't know about you, but as a mother of four, I find myself in the car a lot with my kids, and there are times that I need to turn the radio on or I need to turn a podcast on or something to keep the kids engaged. But what I found is, if I allow myself to keep the car quiet and ask my kids questions, they cannot escape it. And ask my kids questions, they cannot escape. And it becomes this wonderful place, a solitude area they can't escape from, especially of older kids that maybe don't want to talk as much if they're getting into the teen years. But in the car it kind of becomes a magical place where you can ask and answer questions with your children that really mean something.


Now in the car things can get a little bit crazy. So if you're wanting to really have questions that matter and connecting with your kids, it probably is best to do this when you're one-on-one with a child. So I can ask questions that would pertain to my 12-year-old son, like how Are things going with all of his new teachers, where, if it was with my younger son, I could ask him about his new soccer team or how my daughter's feeling about being in a new group of friends or maybe having lost a friend. In these car ride chats you really have the opportunity to dig in deep in a moment where you don't have to create special time to have this one-on-one interaction. You just need to work it in. So next time you're in the car, I want to challenge you turn off the radio, turn away distractions, have them get off their tablets or phones or whatever it might be, and ask some questions. All right, number two. Number two is a favorite of mine because it is to remember to play. A favorite of mine because it is to remember to play. Now, this can look different for everyone, depending on the ages of your kids, but for my daughter who is now 10, to show up and play with her means she wants me to play Barbies, and I used to like playing Barbies as a kid, but as a parent, it doesn't always feel like the best use of my time until I realized that it was her most important work.


I think a lot of times as parents we forget that our children's form of work outside of school is how they play and it's also how they want to connect with you. So instead of saying, hey, mom, I had a rough day, will you come spend some time with me? That question may come across as will you come play Barbies with me? Or will you come play Fortnite with me If you're my 12 year old son and I'm horrible at Fortnite and I've only done it a few times, but the times that I have it means the world to him. For my younger sons that are ages seven and four, they really want me to wrestle with them. They're very physical, they love to laugh and giggle and play, and the times that I take to really connect and bond with them they have appreciated it so much. Now, when you're actually playing with a child and creating laughter and fun, you are releasing oxytocin and endorphins simultaneously at the same time, which creates a deeper bond for you and your child. This may seem like something that can be hard to do, but I promise you, if you just take a minute and listen to what they want to do, they will lead you, they will guide you. It just takes a minute to actually stop and listen to what that play looks like for them.


Number three is bedtime plans setting intention, snuggling and a chat. Now, this section is can be and it has been really hard for me, but I try really hard to fight against it is that bedtime for kids can be that witching hour. Right, you're at the end of your rope. You're feeling like it's been the longest day already. Maybe some days seven o'clock already feels like 10 o'clock. So if you have kids popping out of bed and always wanting to get that last squeeze of time with you, it can be frustrating.


So what I've tried to do to reverse that thinking is to create intention with our bedtime. So what does that sound like? For one example, I like to go in and create a bedtime blitz with my kids. Now, this can vary depending on how many kids you have or what your time looks like, but I will do a bedtime blitz where I will spend five to 10 minutes with each kid sometimes longer, sometimes shorter and I let them pick what we do during that time. So for some of them they want to snuggle and chat. For some they want to read a book. For others they might want to play a quick game or talk about their day.


My son, jet that's a seven-year-old. One of his favorite things to do is to ask me how my day was and then want to know what's happening for the next day. A lot of times our kids don't necessarily have the same perception of time that we do. However, I've noticed that when I've taken the time to do a preview of what's happening the next day, they have a better understanding of what's expected of them in the morning and then, maybe, what things they can look forward to during the day. So, whether that's a soccer game or a dance practice or a fun family movie night, we will break it down and say, okay, tell me the best things about what happened today and let's talk about what's happening tomorrow. That way, if you need to set up clothing early in the morning, or if you need to get a bag prepped for them being spotlighted at school, or a big homework project hopefully you've done that before the night before, but we've all been there this gives you a chance to really recap the day and talk about things that matter.


Every night at dinner, my husband and I like to do a game with our family called High, low and Did you Know? So every night at dinner, we will take a turn for each one of us to go around the table and talk about a high of the day, a low of the day, and then something that is curious or interesting that they might want to tell us. It could be something they learned at school, something that happened to them that day, but this really opens up conversation and the kids have really latched onto this as a time that we bond. I know that there have been times that I've shared this idea with kids on TikTok. I actually have I'm on TikTok at my mommy style if you want to follow along there but I shared that we do this at our dinner time and it was shocking to me how many dozens even gosh, it was probably 26 kids that said something like you actually have family dinner Like that. That was such a surprising revelation. And yes, we do.


We're not perfect at it, but we really try to make dinnertime meaningful and to have those questions and answers where we talk about our day. So, whether that's at bedtime or whether it's at dinnertime, really take the time to talk about your day. What's coming up the next day? I've noticed that when I allow my 12-year-old day, I've noticed that when I allow my 12-year-old almost 13-year-old to talk about his day after school, very often he will say, oh, nothing happened, or it was fine or it was good. It's just very short answers. But if I allow him to talk at night, he will talk and talk and talk, and I don't know what it is about nighttime, but hearts and mouths open, and so, if you can try to prep your time so that you really have those minutes to share with your child at nighttime, because there's something that happens at night and it can be bewitching and horrible, but it can also be magical. And if you allow for that time to exist, I find that my kids really open up and find a really sweet connection with me.


All right, so number four is one-on-one dates. Now, this does not have to be something extravagant. In fact there have been times when I have turned a one-on-one car ride into a one-on-one date. But my husband and I have found that if we take time to take turns with each child and create a small date, that they really feel special. Now we have four children and that's quite a lot for some that here we have four, but I really feel like taking time to do something, even if it's going to the hardware store and grabbing an ice cream on the way home, or taking your child to get a haircut or new shoes or something, turn it into something special. That will take that ordinary situation into something a little bit more special and call it a date. I think actually calling it a date and anticipating the date can really mean a lot. Just two days ago, my husband took our 12-year-old out to get his haircut and afterward they went to Buffalo Wild Wings and it was such a special time for them because I think we put a lot of responsibility and expectation on our oldest son, and a lot of times when we go on dates now we use him as a babysitter, which has been fantastic, let me tell you but he also sometimes feels lost in the fray with all the little kids that are more demanding, and so taking time for that one-on-one really makes a difference.


Number five is to welcome emotion. Kids come with big emotions. It is no doubt that they feel things just as strongly, if not more so, than we ourselves do, and if we can create a safe place to fall and to feel those emotions, it makes for an environment where our kids will give us the opportunity to see what is truly in their hearts. How do we do this? By listening. Another way to connect with your child. Number six is to turn off technology. Now, this is something I'm extremely passionate about.


If you want to hear more about my story, you can go to my blog at mymommystylecom, where I talk about writing the Screen Freeze program. Mymommystylecom, where I talk about writing the Screen Freeze program, which was designed out of necessity, when my four-year-old son started saying some really scary things about him not loving his life, and in a way he didn't say exactly he wanted to end his life, but he basically was saying he hated his life, which was super shocking for me because there had been no traumatic event or abuse of any kind and I was lost in knowing what it was that had happened to my son that made him feel so desperately sad. And through a lot of study and revelation, I found that cutting screen time in our family was the right move to get our house and our home reset on our values and also taking time to really dig deep into what was going on in his little heart. It turned out through that discovery that we found out that he had sleep apnea, which was a really interesting discovery. I didn't know children could even have such a thing, and we also discovered that he had some sensory things going on where he needed a little more attention and ways of using his body through running and jumping and playing to really help set the equilibrium in his brain. And so through all of this, I actually developed the Screen Freeze program to help parents to create a better balance for their homes and for their families so that they really have a better control on the screens.


You know, in today's world we definitely have so much time with screens and it can be really hard to get through that clutter. Connection is the way that our children feel toward us and so often we think that kids really want to be strongly connected to us and they want to obey us, but too often we let a lot of things get in the way. They'll act like kids, which means their emotions will sometimes overwhelm. They're still growing pre-fortal context, but when they trust and understand that we are on their side, they're more motivated to follow and lead when they can. Researchers remind us that we need to have five positive interactions for every negative interaction to keep any relationship healthy. Now, this is something that I know I have really had to positively work on. It's so easy to tell the kids what to do or what they might not be doing right that really taking time to praise them or to create bonding time with them takes effort, and it was because of this that I decided to create the Time for Us journals.


Now, the Time for Us journals are parent and child prompt journals. It's a daily interactive journal for kids ages two to 12. And these journals are really meant for you to be able to sit down with your child for five to 10 minutes and answer questions about their day, how they're feeling, how they've been using their imagination, and then also a place for you to be creative together, and there's a daily prompt that changes each day so that you can really take time to focus in on them. I think too often in my experience I find that I don't necessarily know what questions to ask, and the journal has really taken the guesswork out of it. If you're interested in purchasing a Time for Us journal, you can find them at timeforusjournalscom and you can use the code CEO for 20% off.


Number seven is we want to welcome emotions and listen Really listen. When a parent uses active listening, children generally feel more supported and less controlled. It's hard for parents to resist giving endless advice and lectures as they feel the huge responsibility of teaching their child. Now, what is reflective listening? Active listening is the same term, but reflective listening is actually when you repeat what it is your child is saying back to them. So an example of that might be like would be something like this hey mom, I am just bummed out. I had a really bad day, and if I was doing reflective listening, I would say doing reflective listening. I would say sounds like you've had a hard day. Can you tell me more about that? Yeah, johnny was going to pick me for the team, but then the bell rang and I never got to play. Oh man, that sounds like a really hard time. You wanted to play and Johnny didn't make time for you Something like that. Other examples are it seems as if what I hear you saying, or I get a sense that Now, when we do reflective listening, we aren't coming up with a solution. We aren't coming up with a device. We're simply repeating back to our child what they just revealed to us, and if we fuel that conversation with things that we're hearing, our children are more likely to open up and tell us more.


Reflective parenting is a theory that was developed by a psychoanalyst, Peter Fonagy, and Fonagy introduced the concept of reflective functioning, which is defined as the ability to imagine mental states in self and others. Through this capacity for reflection, we develop the ability to understand our own behavioral responses and the responses of others as a meaningful attempt to communicate those innermost mental states. Now what's really interesting about this research is that it's demonstrated that when a parent has this capacity, one, it strengthens the parent-child relationship and, two, it teaches the child how to understand and regulate their behavior. It also supports their cognitive development. So when we allow our child to talk about the things that matter to them and share what's happening in their day and reflect that back to them, they then will be able to develop that understanding and that communication skill for themselves when they're listening to other people.


I know that one of the major stressors of my parenting moving forward has been worrying about my children being able to communicate and develop relationships face-to-face, without the screen, and really knowing how to communicate. Love and understanding and relationships that matter in friendships and in romantic relationships matter in friendships and in romantic relationships. I know that that's something that, as I've talked to parents with teenagers and even young adults that many, many children have lost the ability to know how to speak face-to-face. They're much more comfortable texting or Snapchatting or sending funny memes to each other than they are sitting down and having a conversation. So, where this may seem trivial to some, I think that this is one of the most important techniques that we, as a parent can teach to our child is how to communicate and how to listen, and we know, as parents, that they listen and they learn more from what we do than what we say.


So my challenge for us this week is to fill your child's cup. What does it mean to fill the cup? In our family? It means that we take time for physical touch. Now stay here with me for a minute. Now stay here with me for a minute. When we got back from the quarantine I get well more, I should say.


When the quarantine started, my 12-year-old was no longer at junior high. He was home with me all the time and I am a very physically loving person and I was trying to give him hugs and it was so awkward it was. He pushed me away, he didn't want to be near me, and that's normal, especially for you know, preteen boys, that they don't want their mom to be loving on them. But I promise you, I promise you, any child needs it. They need that eight to 12 second hug and it's even suggested that we hug our child or have physical contact with them 12 times a day. So when this quarantine started, I realized it was getting kind of awkward for me to be hugging on my oldest son than it used to be, than my little four-year-old who will jump into my lap any chance he gets. But as the quarantine went on and I was taking a conscious effort to hug my oldest son more, I found that it became more comfortable and that he actually came and wanted to hug me too. And I think that's been one of the greatest gifts and aha moments with spending time together more as a family at home is that I was taking time to really love on my son and to hug him, and I found that as we created more physical touch like that, he was willing and more able to open up about things that were happening at school and concerns that were happening, and even his crushes. And I think if you can get your 12, 13 year old to trust you with who they like, then you're winning, because that takes a lot of effort.


For my younger son, the one that I talked about earlier, who really has a need for more sensory touch, he and I, almost on the daily, talk about how his cup is feeling. What does that mean? So if I feel that he's looking a little blue or he's seems to be feeling down, I will go over and wrestle him and tickle him and hug him and I'll tell him how much I love him and how great I think he is. And then I'll ask him how his cup is. And in our house there's actually a book about it. I didn't realize this until later and I'll I'll reference that in the show notes below, but there's a book that talks about filling up your cup or maybe filling up your bucket, I think and it talks about love, touches and the way that we can show love and care for each other in our day-to-day as friends and family. And so in the book it's the idea that we can know we can share love and understanding with each other and build upon that with each other. So I will straight out ask him how's your cup, how's it feeling? And if he's, he'll say oh, it's, it's okay or oh, it's about halfway. And then I'll tickle him some more and love on him some more and I'll say how's your cup? And he'll say it's overflowing. And I love that. I love that we can talk like that and that I want that communication to start young so that hopefully, as he gets older, that communication will stay open.


Interacting with your child is about showing up, just be right there, be there and let everything else go. You won't be able to pull this off all the time, but if you make it a habit several times a day, you will find yourself shifting into presence more and more often. We cannot get back the time that we have with our kids right now, and I know that so many things are pulling you in so many places, but I hope that, as you take from the things that I've shared with you today, that you can have some tactics and tools to make connecting with your child that much easier. If you would like some more resources on this topic, please check into mymommystylecom and timeforusjournalscom. Thank you so much for tuning in and I will see you next time.

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